Emotions are the pivotal part of everyone’s lives. Either a funny text message can make you laugh or heavy traffic on the way to office can make you frustrated, one thing you should always know that highs and lows you experience significantly will affect your well-being.
You should be able to regulate or control your emotions, in turn affects how you are perceived by people around you. When you are laughing at that text during a serious team meeting definitely you are likely to get some awkward look from the others in the room. On the other side, if you get into a fight with the taxi driver who cuts you off in traffic, it will cause unwanted trouble and it’s like risking your life.
Emotions is not science, psychologists still debating the mind connection in emotional activities. If emotion is appropriate to the situation and helps you to feel better, then there is no need to worry about changing the way you are handling things. You can also express your frustration in other ways which allows you to release those angry moments or try some other way to calm yourself down.
When you are frustrated or being angry, calm yourself, may be more easily said than done. When you lose your temper and express the outrage to everyone, your emotions would cost you even close relationships, your health or sometimes you might lose your job.
5 Ways to Get your Emotions under Control:
1. Realize the Situation:
Sometimes you need to avoid some circumstances which triggered unwanted emotions. When you know that you will most likely get angry when you are in a hurry, then don’t extend the things till the last minute. Try to avoid that situation to happen. Leave the place before 10 minutes or reach office before the actual time you need to and you won’t be bothered so much in the traffic.
2. Change the Situation:
The Emotion where everyone is trying to reduce is the disappointment. You are always expecting something, for example you like to serve “perfect meal” to friends and family, but when something goes wrong and at the end only huge disappointment remains. You try to modify the situation by finding the best recipes which is within your range of ability.
3. Attentional focus:
Let’s assume a situation where you constantly feel inferior to the people around you who looks great. For example, when you are at the gym, you notice the regulars on weight machines who lift three times as much as you can. You will feel low and can’t help but watch with envy and wonder at what they are able to do. You should change your focus from them to your fellow gym rats who will help you feel more confident about your abilities. Just focus on what you are doing and eventually you will gain some strength you desire.
4. Changing your thoughts:
Deepest emotions are beliefs which drive them to the core. You feel low or sad when you believe you have lost something. By having a second thoughts you may not be able to change the situation but at least you could change the way you believe the situation is affecting you.
5. Change your response:
If everything goes wrong and you can’t able to avoid just modify your focus or change your thoughts on the alternate response. The final motto is to realize the situation accordingly and get control of your response. In some situation, you might leave some unwanted words, you should see the situation from other side, later you will realize how you reacted in the situation and the next second your mind will say you could have reacted in a different way. Similarly, when you can’t stop laughing when everyone looks serious, gather your inner resources and try to change your facial expression.
These 5 steps approach is the one that you can readily adapt to the most characteristic situation that causes you trouble. Mainly if someone knows that you are emotionally weak definitely that will hurt to try to play with your emotions. Very importantly you should build your confidence. With continuous practice you will be able to turn the negativity into positivity. Good Luck!
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